It’s never too late to score the winning goal

IMG_2055Throughout life we experience many different situations and scenarios which create a change to be forced upon us; reaching a certain age; getting made redundant, breakdown of a relationship or suffering a bereavement

Whatever the scenario, these situations provoke different emotions and often they don’t serve us in a positive way. We start an inner dialogue with ourselves.

Our inner self talk could be a number conversations like:

  • I’m not attractive enough to date again
  • I’m too burnt out to try for a promotion
  • I’ve never been ambitious
  • I’m too old for that

The emotion attached to these scenarios maybe a sense of loss; a door closing; giving up trying, poor motivation or the end of something great.

We learn from our mistakes

But it doesn’t have to be looked upon in this way, my advice is to think of life as a set of experiences and from each experience we will learn something new. It may be good, bad or indifferent but ultimately, we will learn something new which is the key point (90% of what we learn, we learn from our mistakes).

Re-frame your thinking

By being empowered with more knowledge and wisdom when we are faced with a new experience we should re-frame our thinking in that it is only temporary, nothing ventured nothing gained, it’s not about winning or losing, it’s not permanent or forever, it is just a new path that I am following and let’s see which direction this takes us.  This way you instantly reduce the stress of the expectation of the new phase and can allow yourself to embrace the future without fear.

Every stage of life has its own rewards and success and happiness comes quite often from looking back and reflecting on what you learned and how you can take that learning into the next phase of your life and use it for your own self development.

Whatever stage of life you are experiencing, it is never too late to score the winning goal.

If you are struggling with an experience in your life and need support, we are here to help. Call the Life Practice on 01462 431112 to speak to one of our qualified therapists .

Do you have a “Me” Day

I have to admit I was feeling slightly smug leading up to the Christmas period when everyone around me seemed to be coming down with a nasty virus. However come Christmas night it finally got hold of me and I spent the next three weeks quite literally in bed with aches, pains, copious amounts of catarrah and eventually pleurisy. Not like me at all as I never get ill, in fact  I can’t remember the last time it happened. As a Nutritional Therapist my diet is clean and I do generally look after myself but I guess I had been working quite hard and had been rushing around a fair bit leading up to the Christmas crazy season and my immune system was a little under par.

During these three “ill” weeks I couldn’t work, be a Mum or anything at all useful at home or work so I gave into the fact that I had to rest and recuperate. On reflection during this time I looked back on my 2014 and decided that I had been burning the candle at both ends and working far too hard and not allowing enough “Me” time.  I spent my days looking after others in the clinic and at home but had forgotten to look after number one. So as I lay there feeling sorry for myself I started to put some changes were in place for 2015.

I started with booking myself some pampering in the form of a Tri-Enzyme Resurfacing Facial at the Vanity Beauty Academy in Hitchin. It sounded like something that would revive my zombie-like body and give me back my “mojo”.

Vanity Beauty Academy is housed in a beautiful listed building in Sun Street and comprises of lots of nooks and cranny type rooms where there are different treatments available from facials, tanning, body massage, eye and nail treatments to waxing and pamper parties for all ages. They set the atmosphere beautifully with classical music in the background with subtle aromas enveloping your senses.

On arrival I was met by the lovely Laura who talked through the treatment and asked me a little bit about my skincare routine and what my expectations were. She gave me a choice of an additional shoulder or scalp massage for which I chose a scalp massage as I had never experienced that before other than at the hairdressers. It was amazing!

During the treatment I was transported into a world of relaxation and sheer indulgence. I found myself drifting off into my own happy thoughts and eventually settled somewhere between nothingness and oblivion. It was exactly what I needed. My skin felt amazing, even some of my fine “laughter” lines had reduced which is worth it’s weight in gold and my confidence immediately lifted.

So I have made a pact with myself that I will allow myself one indulgence a month in order to keep stress at bay and create an air of calm within. After all it is something that I recommend to all my stressed clients that visit my clinic and I really should practice what I preach. It is little treats like these that keep us balanced and in check and ultimately make us better people to spend time with and be around. Stress is “so” last year.

For information on Vanity Beauty Academy email: enquiries@vanitybeautyacademy.com or call 01462 438883 or visit their website

Written by: Karen Shields, Nutritional Therapist at the Life Practice UK, 107 Bancroft, Hitchin, Herts SG45 1NB